haha a very good article... i want to date 3 out of 7! they are missing a writer! hahaha so he can be expressive because i love notes and letters
Is he your dream date?
By Maggie Kim
Your mother always wanted you to end up with a nice doctor while your teenage self probably fantasized about going on tour with the lead singer of a rock band. Now that you’ve grown up, your tastes have gotten a bit more sophisticated, leaning towards strong, sexy, smart and talented types like writers, firemen, and yep, doctors. So what would it really be like to date one of these guys—amazing... or amazingly disappointing? Well, to find out, we spoke to women who actually lived the fantasy and dated these guys. Here’s what they had to say about the experience.
Dream date #1: Firefighter
“Without a doubt, Derik was a hunk—great body, rugged and totally manly. He was hot in his uniform, but even hotter out of it! My biggest complaint was that his entire life revolved around the firehouse and his ‘boys’ there. After his work shift ended, he still wanted to hang out at the firehouse and cook dinner for everyone. When you date a firefighter, you get the entire firehouse. Also, being with a man’s man went hand-in-hand with dealing with his chauvinistic attitudes. He believed that a woman should do woman’s work, like cleaning and getting him beers. That just didn’t fly with me.”
–Olya K., 29, Long Island, NY
Dream date #2: Doctor
“Paul and I dated for three years before getting engaged. I come from a family of physicians so I knew what to expect—good and bad. Being involved with a doctor definitely has its benefits: I’ve quickly gotten appointments with specialists since Paul has friends in a variety of fields; when I go to the hospital for a test, the staff knows me; and Paul can reassure me when I don’t feel well (I remember being concerned about a mole on my back and Paul had a look and told me it was nothing). But when it comes to his own symptoms, that’s a different story. Being a doctor, he sometimes over-reacts to the slightest sign, I guess because he knows the worst-case scenario. And he can get called to the hospital at any hour, on any day (including special occasions and holidays), so planning things in advance is really tough. And his crazy hours mean he’s always tired, so intimate moments aren’t as frequent as we’d like. Plus, medicine is not as lucrative as people think it is. Before we got married, my mom told me the life of doctor’s wife is not glamorous. Now I know she’s completely right! It is nice to always have a doctor in the house, but it’s not the cushy life they lead you to believe it is in the movies.”
–Claire G., 34, Long Island, NY
Dream date #3: Comedian
“Ironically, it’s not funny being with someone who’s always worried about being funny. My guy Jim always had to be ‘on’ and it was exhausting. I loved his sense of humor—it was what I was attracted to in the first place, but he never knew when to be serious. Sometimes I wanted to discuss something I read in the paper, but Jim had to make a joke or wry observation about everything. War’s not a laughing matter, in my opinion. Plus everything you say might go into your boyfriend’s act. I dated him for years, and after we broke up, another one of my friends caught his new act. It was all about me—and apparently it wasn’t flattering. Definitely not funny!”
- Susan M., 39, Philadelphia
Dream date #4: Fashion photographer
“My photographer boyfriend was great about telling me how gorgeous I was, and he loved taking pictures of me, whether they were snapshots or major projects he was working on. He made me feel like a supermodel. But telling women how beautiful they are while taking their picture was his job! After hearing about another audition with hot, 20-year-old models and seeing the fruits of his labor — photo spreads with scantily-clad glamazons — my insecurities really got the better of me. The final straw was when we went to another chic fashion party and just about every dewy-skinned, size-two beauty rushed up to say hello, and he simply basked in the attention. That’s when I realized that enduring mind-numbing small talk while getting looked down upon by girls I’d seen in magazines was part of the job description of being a fashion shutterbug’s girlfriend. I wound up quitting pretty soon afterward.”
- Anne L., 28, New York City, NY
Dream date #5: Screenwriter
“There’s something glamorous about dating someone in the film industry. And if you’re dating a working screenwriter, he can work from home and he’s got plenty of money. So Kevin and I could sleep in late, spend the day together and go to fancy restaurants at night. But he’d get really depressed if he was ‘blocked’ or if a pitch meeting didn’t go exactly how he wanted it to. I also got tired of his starry-eyed descriptions of Hollywood players. Screenwriters are on the outskirts of fame, and I think my ex-boyfriend always wanted to be in the thick of it, so I’d have to listen to endless stories about parties where he got to rub shoulders with A-listers, but really only got to hang out with C-listers. It was kind of depressing.”
- Meg K., 33, Los Angeles, CA
Dream date #6: Restauranteur
“Greg always knew the hottest new places with the best food and was happy to take me there. We had some really great dining experiences—at least when it came to the food. The trouble would start when we got to the restaurant. It was the same every time: He’d carefully study the entire menu and when the waiter would come to take our order, he’d ask a zillion questions about how something was prepared or what it came with, until finally he’d mention, ‘I work in restaurants, too,’ and drop the name of his place. It was so embarrassing because most of the time, the waiter would be like, “Who cares?” He also couldn’t talk about anything besides the restaurant business. It was such a small, competitive world. I actually would have to ask that we talk about something else.”
- Maria F., 32, Darien, CT
Dream date #7: Musician
“Dating a famous musician was definitely exciting. I loved seeing Bryan perform to sold-out crowds. And being someone’s muse — he dedicated an entire album to me — was unbelievable. But unless you’re willing to give up your life to be a touring rock star’s girlfriend, you don’t see each other for weeks or months at a time. And the groupie cliché is true! I remember one very well-known rock groupie who came backstage after a show because she wanted to sleep with my boyfriend, even though he’d already introduced me as his girlfriend! She wouldn’t leave until my boyfriend finally asked her to go. But I always wonder what would have happened if I hadn’t been there that night. I loved the thrill of being a rocker’s girlfriend, but lack of stability — and commitment — went hand in hand with it, so ultimately I had to end things.”
–Lisa B., 32, Wash
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Meet the woman of your dreams
By Dan Bova
When it comes to fantasy women, guys aren’t the most original. For generations, most men have imagined smokin’ hot bikini models in magazines drooling right back at us or a pretty masseuse who offers up backrubs 24/7. While most guys accept that these are unattainable fantasies, some are able to make them realities. We asked the latter group of lucky fellas if dating these dream lovers lived up to their great expectations. Read on to hear what it’s really and truly like to date one of these women.
Whose faith is...
Dream date #1: Flight attendant
“I met Liv on a flight from New York to Atlanta. I stood around the jump seat area under the pretense of stretching my legs (flight attendants get totally hot for guys who know how to combat deep vein thrombosis, right?) and asked her about a book she was reading. I thought that it would be fantastic to brag that I was dating a flight attendant. It has a sexy, glamorous quality, plus I figured there would be tons of free trips and unexpected getaways to exotic locales. Every guy I ever told, ‘I’m dating a flight attendant’ got a faraway look in his eye and just nodded his head to silently say, ‘Good man, good man.’ The bragging rights totally exceeded my expectations, but the getaways turned out to be kind of a pain. You get to fly for free basically, but you never know when or if you can get back from where you came. Another downside was that she was flying the B-list routes to none-too-scenic small towns all over the interior of the country and dealing with irate passengers all day long, so she wasn’t usually in the best of moods when we got to spend time together. But still, she was gorgeous. And in the time we dated, I never got more high-fives from other dudes in my life.”
- Wayne, 28 Atlanta, GA
Dream date #2: Massage therapist
“The first time I went out with this woman, she told me she was a massage therapist and I admit I thought it was hot. I figured that she’d be in shape, comfortable with her body, somewhat health-conscious and down-to-earth—and would be giving me killer massages all of the time. I got the first parts right, but she came home physically tired, and I ended up massaging her more often than the other way around. I guess if you’re dating a dentist, the last thing she wants to do at the end of the day is help you floss. There’s some old Seinfeld episode about dating a massage therapist, and I heard about it all the time from my friends. I still haven’t seen it, but the message was kind of the same—you aren’t going to get a lot of free massages. The nights where she did surprise me with her magic hands—omigod, it was beyond awesome.”
- Edgar, 35, Tampa, FL
Dream date #3: Bartender
“I spotted Jessica at my local bar in downtown New York. I thought dating a bartender would mean a lot of late nights at the bar getting free drinks, leaving a sleeping woman in my bed when I left for work and lots of parties with her bar friends at 3 a.m. And that’s pretty much what it was like. She took me to all of these after-hours parties and had all of these great stories about crazy customers getting in fights or passing out while they were in the middle of hitting on her. It was wild. It was like living a rock-star life. Free drinks and sex at 4 o’clock in the morning... it was pretty great, actually.”
- Hugh, 30, New York City, NY
Dream date #4: Model
“It’s easy to think that models are stuck-up, but my girlfriend is nothing like that. She’s cool and down-to-earth and doesn’t fit any of those stereotypes. Her job hasn’t put any strain on our relationship at all. I mean, you have to understand exactly what being a model entails, which is your girlfriend doing photo shoots with tons of different photographers and getting all sexy in front of the camera. If you’re the jealous type, don’t date a model. You have to trust that even though all of these guys are hitting on her at shoots or in bars, she wouldn’t cheat on you. You can’t get jealous because people are falling over themselves for her, and you can’t get cocky either because you’re dating a gorgeous woman. Honestly, beautiful as she is, the best part of our relationship is that we make each other laugh and are best friends.”
- Andrew, 23, Cleveland, OH
Dream date #5: Chef
“When I met Dee, she was just finishing up culinary school. It was great because I got to eat her homework! Now that she’s a professional chef and on her feet 15 hours a day, I feel bad having her cook for me, but I couldn’t keep her out of the kitchen if I tried. She makes the most insanely delicious food I’ve ever had in my life. Like she can make mac ‘n’ cheese that’ll blow your socks off! But she also always surprises me by making super-fancy dishes like duck just because it looked good at the market that day. She puts so much love into her dishes, you feel like you’re being taken care of. It’s really sweet. The only problem is that I’ve put on about 10 pounds since we’ve been together!”
- John, 38, Los Angeles, CA
Dream date #6: The boss
“My boss and I used to innocently flirt a lot at after work get-togethers. The flirting kept escalating, and one night, we wound up slipping out the back door and hooking up at her apartment. The first time I woke up next to her, I kind of freaked. I was like, ‘I’d better go get coffee and the paper and be Super-Guy or else she’ll fire me!’ It took a couple of dates before I could shake the ‘She’s your boss!’ voice screaming in my head. It was very nerve-wracking, always wondering if our co-workers had figured it out. I became paranoid. I’d be thinking, ‘Why did so-and-so ask me where I went this weekend? Did someone see us together?!’ And I was in this weird in-between world where I’d hear my co-workers bitch about their workloads at lunch, and later, hear her bitch about how some of my co-workers were slackers. But there were some pretty cool perks, though. Besides getting to see and work with someone I loved every day, she told me when it was a good time to ask for a raise!”
- Joe, 27, Stamford, CT
Dream date #7: Sex writer
“When I met Julie and found out she was a sex writer, of course I thought she would be wild in bed! And over the years, that has turned out to be pretty true. It’s exciting to be surprised by her creativity—I never know what she’ll do next. Sometimes she opens the closet and pulls out costumes, sometimes she brings in some interesting food items from the kitchen. There is never a dull moment. Needless to say, I love it when she is working on a new story or book! Being with a sex writer is all I dreamed it would be—and more.”
- Jay, 41, Glendale, CA
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